Lovely. Just lovely.
So I open my email yesterday and what do I find? An email from Brian!? wow. We broke up about 6 months ago?.... cool...
I open the email and it's so long winded confession about how he made a mistake and we were always meant to be. Also that he will always love me and he broke up with me because he couldn't provide me with what I needed. Oh yay. I love it. I'll post it at the end with the name's changed. I emailed it to my friends and they couldn't even think of something to say. The last time I talked to him was July. The email talks about how he can't stop thinking about me and how he did somethings he wasn't proud of etc. So why isn't my life a tv show yet?
On the brighter side he says he's apparently saving up money for my laptop which is astonishing. I never thought I'd see the day where I'd being getting that. I should expect a check in the mail after Christmas...
I don't know what it is with ex boyfriends of mine but clearly I'm just way too amazing of a girl because they always come back. Like clockwork they try to get me back and then my current boyfriend will get mad and pissed off and try to beat them up. Then the cycle continutes where that boyfriend becomes my ex and tries to get me back etc etc. Alright so I'm keeping this short because I am too flabbergasted to say anything else. I'm sure I'll have a lovely rant tomorrow.
As Always
-K
The Email:
Hey
I know you don't want to see my name or talk to me but please just read the following...
K(me), i have never found anyone like you. In the brief time that we dated i knew off the bat that you are a special girl. You get me on so many topics and situations. We have so many food things in common, i just cannot believe sometimes. We got along better than great. You are a great girlfriend. I thought you were mean't to be with me forever......
What I did was a mistake that night we broke up. I went home that night and destroyed and did some things im not proud of. And i haven't been the same guy. Since that i rarely talk to my mother now and Im not gonne lie , but ive dated girls since you but it never lasted because they weren't you. Not even close. And ive done some really stupid things i am not proud of. The only happy ending i can think of is that you have found or can find someone better than me. Honestly i am a film student. I do not know where that will lead me at all. You deserve someone that can provide a happy life for you. I can't provide that.
Since the day i met you i realized that you are a strong woman and you want someone that can provide you with secruity and money. And my future can't gurantee that. I just want you to find someone that can provide you with eveything you need to have a happy life. I thought breaking up with you was the right thing to do to give you a life u deserved that i couldnt give you. Being with someone else is probably better then being with me. If making you happy means not being with me then its what im willing to sacrifice. I just want you to have a good life. I will always remember you K. You are one of the only woman i'll ever love with my heart. If any guy hurts you emotionally or especially physically, i will fuck him up beyond repair.
I just hope K(me) that you look at me as a good guy becuase i just was doing what i thought was right for you. Like I told you when we broke up. I cant be the boyfriend you want me to be. I know it been a few months but i just had to get this off my chest. Everytime i see you at school, i just can't think. Your the only person i ever think about all the time. No one can replace that. i love you and i wanted you to be the love of my life but you deserve better than me.
I will always love you
I hope you enjoy the rest of your life.
Brian
P.S.( Im up to 130 on the lap top money for you. Expect a check in the mail after chirstmas.)
Saturday, November 22, 2008
Monday, July 7, 2008
Summer Lovin' Part II
Morning! I know it's been awhile but I've been busy with more story developments. I know, I've never going to catch up at this rate...
Alright so where was I, G telling me FINALLY that he liked me. I was hanging out with E at my house playing rockband where he was dominated at drums and I was shredding up the guitar. yeah, that's right. G text me asking if he could ask me a question. Ugh. Anytime someone ask you that you know it's a loaded question. Something important always follows that. He says that he has really enjoyed hanging out with me over the passed few weeks and he wonders if it was both ways. I, of course, poke fun at him for being so vague and he admits to really liking me "quite a bit". I say I enjoy hanging out with him too but of course, I'm in my basement and he has a shitty phone! So we play text message tag for 2 hours when I finally give up and say we should discuss this in person. I must have been killing him because I thought I would send texts but they ended up not going through. So ridiculous.
So the next day, I go to cowboys with my friends as we had arranged a couple weeks before and G was going there too for his friends birthday. We pretty much arranged to talk there a little bit just so that there wasn't that stupid text message delay and things are a lot better in person! Not going to lie, I ended up being pretty smashed. He said that he liked me a lot but if I wasn't ready to be in a relationship he understood because I had just gotten out of one. He said I was worth the wait (aww). I found out he had liked me for awhile, like into last year which was surprising to me but I'll tell you that S called this one for sure. She always said there was secret love from him to me so I'll give her credit ! We ended up hanging out all night at Cowboys and dancing and whatever. We also (apparently) agreed to go for lunch the next day since he only worked until 1. We went to Olive Garden and talked about what we were going to do and I wanted to give it a shot. It takes a lot of courage for someone to ask you out and I had no doubt that if it didn't work out that we'd still be friends. We arranged to go out on friday and I was left pretty unimpressed after the lunch date. I guess it didn't really count as a date but it didn't feel like we were making that transition from friend to relationship at all.
Friday we went to see Get Smart (which is hilarious by the way) and for gelati on cordyn. It was nice since we could talk to each other about things other than work and find out more about each other. He kiss ME at the end of the night which was so shocking but impressived me quite a bit since I'm apparently very intimidating. (who knew...haha). I still was a little unsure about the whole thing but I felt something could be there now so we were going to go out again. On saturday I was supposed to go to the bar with my friends but I had to close so G could go to his Bud Spud and Steak for his soccer team. I didn't get out until 1030 and I didn't want to wait inline by myself at TYC so instead I went to a house party James was having. I picked up G since he was already drinking and I worked 9. (not having a hangover repeat of the previous weekend thank you very much.) When we got there James was already tipsy and everyone was having a good time which was fine.
It was myself, G and James upstairs at James' house and James went to his room to get his new camera which he had been telling me about. He called me into his room to "Show me his camera" and asked me what was going on with myself and G. Now, G and I didn't want to tell anyone we were dating because we figured it would just create unneeded drama at work since we work together 4 out of 5 days a week. James kept telling me that G was a good guy and I should give him a shot, which I thought was weird since he had just finished telling A about how much he wanted me? I was thisclose to telling James right then and there but I hadn't talked to G about it yet so I left it. I went back out to the kitchen and talked to G and james again. G went downstairs to hang out with the rest of the people that were there and this was a good opportunity for me to ask James about what is going on with him. So I told him what A said to me at Earls that one night and it ended up turning into an all night chatfest.
He told me that he never really got over the fact that he blew his chance with me over christmas and that when I was dating Brian he always thought it should have been him. I told him that how I couldn't date someone who wanted to leave Winnipeg every 6 months and be gone indefinately. A) that's not good for me and b) it's not good for him. He just kept saying that he wishes he could have another shot and how retarded he is (which is very true). He admitted that he still liked me but that if I was going to go out with G that would be okay because G is his buddy and he's a good guy. The whole thing with James is such a mess because he started to hang out with Julie again, which I asked him about and he really had no explaination for it, other than he's retarded. He said he realized he should have taken the chance he got and was basically asking for another one. It was like he wished we could go back into the past and just ignore everything that happened including saying that he would support me dating G. He wouldn't let me leave , he kept whining and not letting me leave, saying I should lie down next to him and talk. G was downstairs probably wondering what the hell was going on since I was gone for over an hour....
To be continued!
As always,
K
Alright so where was I, G telling me FINALLY that he liked me. I was hanging out with E at my house playing rockband where he was dominated at drums and I was shredding up the guitar. yeah, that's right. G text me asking if he could ask me a question. Ugh. Anytime someone ask you that you know it's a loaded question. Something important always follows that. He says that he has really enjoyed hanging out with me over the passed few weeks and he wonders if it was both ways. I, of course, poke fun at him for being so vague and he admits to really liking me "quite a bit". I say I enjoy hanging out with him too but of course, I'm in my basement and he has a shitty phone! So we play text message tag for 2 hours when I finally give up and say we should discuss this in person. I must have been killing him because I thought I would send texts but they ended up not going through. So ridiculous.
So the next day, I go to cowboys with my friends as we had arranged a couple weeks before and G was going there too for his friends birthday. We pretty much arranged to talk there a little bit just so that there wasn't that stupid text message delay and things are a lot better in person! Not going to lie, I ended up being pretty smashed. He said that he liked me a lot but if I wasn't ready to be in a relationship he understood because I had just gotten out of one. He said I was worth the wait (aww). I found out he had liked me for awhile, like into last year which was surprising to me but I'll tell you that S called this one for sure. She always said there was secret love from him to me so I'll give her credit ! We ended up hanging out all night at Cowboys and dancing and whatever. We also (apparently) agreed to go for lunch the next day since he only worked until 1. We went to Olive Garden and talked about what we were going to do and I wanted to give it a shot. It takes a lot of courage for someone to ask you out and I had no doubt that if it didn't work out that we'd still be friends. We arranged to go out on friday and I was left pretty unimpressed after the lunch date. I guess it didn't really count as a date but it didn't feel like we were making that transition from friend to relationship at all.
Friday we went to see Get Smart (which is hilarious by the way) and for gelati on cordyn. It was nice since we could talk to each other about things other than work and find out more about each other. He kiss ME at the end of the night which was so shocking but impressived me quite a bit since I'm apparently very intimidating. (who knew...haha). I still was a little unsure about the whole thing but I felt something could be there now so we were going to go out again. On saturday I was supposed to go to the bar with my friends but I had to close so G could go to his Bud Spud and Steak for his soccer team. I didn't get out until 1030 and I didn't want to wait inline by myself at TYC so instead I went to a house party James was having. I picked up G since he was already drinking and I worked 9. (not having a hangover repeat of the previous weekend thank you very much.) When we got there James was already tipsy and everyone was having a good time which was fine.
It was myself, G and James upstairs at James' house and James went to his room to get his new camera which he had been telling me about. He called me into his room to "Show me his camera" and asked me what was going on with myself and G. Now, G and I didn't want to tell anyone we were dating because we figured it would just create unneeded drama at work since we work together 4 out of 5 days a week. James kept telling me that G was a good guy and I should give him a shot, which I thought was weird since he had just finished telling A about how much he wanted me? I was thisclose to telling James right then and there but I hadn't talked to G about it yet so I left it. I went back out to the kitchen and talked to G and james again. G went downstairs to hang out with the rest of the people that were there and this was a good opportunity for me to ask James about what is going on with him. So I told him what A said to me at Earls that one night and it ended up turning into an all night chatfest.
He told me that he never really got over the fact that he blew his chance with me over christmas and that when I was dating Brian he always thought it should have been him. I told him that how I couldn't date someone who wanted to leave Winnipeg every 6 months and be gone indefinately. A) that's not good for me and b) it's not good for him. He just kept saying that he wishes he could have another shot and how retarded he is (which is very true). He admitted that he still liked me but that if I was going to go out with G that would be okay because G is his buddy and he's a good guy. The whole thing with James is such a mess because he started to hang out with Julie again, which I asked him about and he really had no explaination for it, other than he's retarded. He said he realized he should have taken the chance he got and was basically asking for another one. It was like he wished we could go back into the past and just ignore everything that happened including saying that he would support me dating G. He wouldn't let me leave , he kept whining and not letting me leave, saying I should lie down next to him and talk. G was downstairs probably wondering what the hell was going on since I was gone for over an hour....
To be continued!
As always,
K
Saturday, June 28, 2008
Summer Lovin'
Good Evening ladies and gentlemen! (also continuing this in the morning!)
At work again and it's very boring so I'll start this post about the last month-ish. Hopefully I can finish the backstory and start posting in real time!
Brian and I broke up after May long weekend which was kind of a surprise but also not...hard to explain. He still owes me $600 for breaking my laptop screen and shorts I bought him and he refuses to talk to me. I'm thinking this may go to small claims court. Peoples court anyone!? Anyways, so my co-workers and I like to hang out, outside of work and we usually go to earls. So About 4 days after I had broken up with Brian, we went to Earls. My friend from work G and I carpooled since we lived in about the same area and then one of us could drink. It was a good set up. One of the guys I work with, A, text me after saying he had to tell me something but it was awkward for him to tell him. I told him he can't just say that and not tell me so he said that when I went to the bathroom G told everyone that he had a thing for me. 4 days after breaking up with Brian. Yes. The Drama never ends. So that put me in the awkward places since I work with him 4 days a week practically. I wasn't going to say anything because that just causes problems I don't need. I went on my merry way just ignore it.
At work a couple days later, James told me about what G said too. It wasn't a big deal because clearly James had liked me before and we worked together find and also G hadn't said anything to my face so I just pretended like it didn't exist. He started texting me while I was in minneapolis practically every day so if I didn't know already, I would have figured it out then. When I was driving back to Winnipeg he asked what I was up to when I got back in the city. Not really a big deal and I wasn't doing anything so he asked if I wanted to go see Indiana jones with which was fine. We had talked about going at work when we were "friends" so I figured it was okay to do this as friends. Oh also, when I was in Minneapolis I picked up 2 cases of cherry sev for him because its his favourite drink (Mine too!) Just thought I was being a good friends and such... anyways, where was I... yes, So we went to the movie and he tried paying which was interesting considering I said it was just friends but he ended up agreeing to let me pay for myself. I'm a big girl! The movie sucked but going with G was fine.
After the movie, he wanted to hang out more and more. Clearly I knew his motive but he never acknowledged that he liked me or that I knew he liked me. James told G that another coworker had told me that G liked me, which was a lie, but whatever the case G knew that I knew.. (so confusing!) We hung out a bit after that and went bowling nothing crazy but it was really pissing me off that he wouldn't say anything. I don't need a guy that can't speak his mind or is intimidated by me. I mean, cmon, it's been a couple weeks of hanging out I think I've figured it out by now. So one night we went to BDI for ice cream and went for a walk (yes as friends. Who does that!? I think I KNOWWWW). I started laying hints about how another girl at work knew one of the staff liked her and he told everyone except her which made it awkward. I hoped he would get it. I really couldn't take him not saying anything!
We went to Earls (I know, we are there quite often) on the wednesday and it was myself, A, James and G. I was driving and so was A so James and G got mightly loaded. A was telling me how James texts Julia all the time and wants to get back with her. He also has called her house trying to find her but she won't return his calls. You know why? Because she has a boyfriend! If only he would learn. James had been telling A about the entire Julia drama and was getting to the part where I came in. A didn't work with us last year so he missed out on that saga. Just as he started to talk about me, G and I walked into earls so that story was over. Later in the night we were all sitting together at a roundtable and G started to talk to James about me. Both A and I could hear him and he used a crafty (not) construction allusion to our relationship. He didn't know if the "like" was going both ways or whether it was a one way street. A after told me he had to tell me something about James and he called me after Earls.
I was told by my favourite gossip queen at work, A, that James had come up to A on his (James) birthday and said that he wanted me. We all went to Earls together for James' birthday and I noticed towards the end of the night that James was gravitating towards me. I figured it wasn't a big deal because we were friends (finally!) and things weren't awkward at all between us. Also how much to I love the word awkward haha. Okay so yes, James told A he wanted me and that whenever we go out he finds me very attractive. So yes. Two of my coworkers out of 6 I work with, like me. James wants another shot and G is trying to get one. Wowwowow. How dumb. So after that I decided that I wasn't going to accelerate my own decision/demise so I didn't ask either of them about it. I would deal with it when someone said something. Which thank god G did.
This deserves a fresh start.. new post time!
As always,
K
At work again and it's very boring so I'll start this post about the last month-ish. Hopefully I can finish the backstory and start posting in real time!
Brian and I broke up after May long weekend which was kind of a surprise but also not...hard to explain. He still owes me $600 for breaking my laptop screen and shorts I bought him and he refuses to talk to me. I'm thinking this may go to small claims court. Peoples court anyone!? Anyways, so my co-workers and I like to hang out, outside of work and we usually go to earls. So About 4 days after I had broken up with Brian, we went to Earls. My friend from work G and I carpooled since we lived in about the same area and then one of us could drink. It was a good set up. One of the guys I work with, A, text me after saying he had to tell me something but it was awkward for him to tell him. I told him he can't just say that and not tell me so he said that when I went to the bathroom G told everyone that he had a thing for me. 4 days after breaking up with Brian. Yes. The Drama never ends. So that put me in the awkward places since I work with him 4 days a week practically. I wasn't going to say anything because that just causes problems I don't need. I went on my merry way just ignore it.
At work a couple days later, James told me about what G said too. It wasn't a big deal because clearly James had liked me before and we worked together find and also G hadn't said anything to my face so I just pretended like it didn't exist. He started texting me while I was in minneapolis practically every day so if I didn't know already, I would have figured it out then. When I was driving back to Winnipeg he asked what I was up to when I got back in the city. Not really a big deal and I wasn't doing anything so he asked if I wanted to go see Indiana jones with which was fine. We had talked about going at work when we were "friends" so I figured it was okay to do this as friends. Oh also, when I was in Minneapolis I picked up 2 cases of cherry sev for him because its his favourite drink (Mine too!) Just thought I was being a good friends and such... anyways, where was I... yes, So we went to the movie and he tried paying which was interesting considering I said it was just friends but he ended up agreeing to let me pay for myself. I'm a big girl! The movie sucked but going with G was fine.
After the movie, he wanted to hang out more and more. Clearly I knew his motive but he never acknowledged that he liked me or that I knew he liked me. James told G that another coworker had told me that G liked me, which was a lie, but whatever the case G knew that I knew.. (so confusing!) We hung out a bit after that and went bowling nothing crazy but it was really pissing me off that he wouldn't say anything. I don't need a guy that can't speak his mind or is intimidated by me. I mean, cmon, it's been a couple weeks of hanging out I think I've figured it out by now. So one night we went to BDI for ice cream and went for a walk (yes as friends. Who does that!? I think I KNOWWWW). I started laying hints about how another girl at work knew one of the staff liked her and he told everyone except her which made it awkward. I hoped he would get it. I really couldn't take him not saying anything!
We went to Earls (I know, we are there quite often) on the wednesday and it was myself, A, James and G. I was driving and so was A so James and G got mightly loaded. A was telling me how James texts Julia all the time and wants to get back with her. He also has called her house trying to find her but she won't return his calls. You know why? Because she has a boyfriend! If only he would learn. James had been telling A about the entire Julia drama and was getting to the part where I came in. A didn't work with us last year so he missed out on that saga. Just as he started to talk about me, G and I walked into earls so that story was over. Later in the night we were all sitting together at a roundtable and G started to talk to James about me. Both A and I could hear him and he used a crafty (not) construction allusion to our relationship. He didn't know if the "like" was going both ways or whether it was a one way street. A after told me he had to tell me something about James and he called me after Earls.
I was told by my favourite gossip queen at work, A, that James had come up to A on his (James) birthday and said that he wanted me. We all went to Earls together for James' birthday and I noticed towards the end of the night that James was gravitating towards me. I figured it wasn't a big deal because we were friends (finally!) and things weren't awkward at all between us. Also how much to I love the word awkward haha. Okay so yes, James told A he wanted me and that whenever we go out he finds me very attractive. So yes. Two of my coworkers out of 6 I work with, like me. James wants another shot and G is trying to get one. Wowwowow. How dumb. So after that I decided that I wasn't going to accelerate my own decision/demise so I didn't ask either of them about it. I would deal with it when someone said something. Which thank god G did.
This deserves a fresh start.. new post time!
As always,
K
Wednesday, June 25, 2008
Spring brings... flowers?
So...where did I leave off.... Ah yes, with Chris.
Chris would text me all the time while I was dating Brian. Asking to hang out, talk etc etc. I wasn't really comfortable with hanging out with him since I had just started dating someone new. Plus the relationship ended badly (as you can tell) in his eyes so I didn't want to have to deal with that again. I did meet him for coffee once to try and be on a civil level with him but he just tried to rehash our relationship. He said it was a mistake that we dated which was kind of a shot. I didn't view it as a mistake as we had dated for over a year and every relationship is a learning experience. He was just too much to deal with so I tried to avoid him. Occasionally I would see him at the bar and he'd try to talk to me or talk to my friends. He started to hang around my friend J more, which was creepy to me since she is one of my best friends and he kept trying to buy her drinks at the bar and dance with her. He also was posing for pictures with J and C which again, was a little weird since he said he was glad we broke up since I was so young....
I ended up confronting him on MSN in march about buying J drinks at the bar and also since J found it a little creepy. (Sorry for outing you on this info J!) He asked me why it was creepy and why I was trying to control him, saying that I clearly wasn't over him... Uh, it was more why is he scamming on my 18 year old friends when he said I was too young? And yeah, did I mention he was 25 at this point? Of course he decided it would be a good time to try and talk about why our relationship ended again, not like that occured 6 months ago or anything...So we weren't talking again after that which was fine with me. He is a wingnut and unfortunately only I could see that.
Also in March a member from my work started texting me. I had text him on his birthday in March since N told me that he was having a bad day and I knew him though the people I worked with and James. I figured it wasn't a problem and I was just being nice. From me texting him he got my phone number and took it upon himself to text me all night. He said how amazing I was and how he wishes he could be there for my birthday... Oh and did I mention he's 31!!!! Yeah... I apparently attract weirdos! He asked that if I was there if I would give him a birthday kiss. Hell. no. He would sporadically text me for the next couple months saying how awesome and fantastic I was even though yes, I was still with Brian. I got N to talk to him and tell him to stop texting me but it didn't seem to matter. He STILL texts me and makes creepy comments when we are out at Earls (he comes because he is friends with James and Co.) So we have that drama going on which is of course so lovely. His texts of "I know it's late but... I think UR great" have become quite the joke at work.
I guess I'll continue on with the Chris saga. After I broke up with Brian I received a facebook message from Chris apologizing for the break up and if I needed anything to "let him know"... Right... the next day, Saturday, I received a phone call at 2:30am from Chris. I was asleep and he said he was "in the area" and wanted to know if I wanted to go for coffee... Uh, no. I wasn't going to get back with him just because I had broken up with Brian. Clearly I wasn't going for coffee at 2:30 am either? The next weekend he text me asking how my night was... I didn't respond. I didn't want to start arguing with him over nothing and get him back in my life. He was crazy! I went to Minneapolis the next week with my friends. A break from everything! thank god! When I got back I, of course, received a text from Chris asking how my trip was. He must have been checking out my facebook since I have not been in contact with him at all and no one told him. Again I did not respond... I didn't want to get involved with him again. He just caused unneeded stress in my life so I avoided him at all costs. I thought I had gotten rid of him... but noooooo of course not.
Friday June 13th, ( I know. the date should have told me what was coming) I was supposed to go to Mybar with S, J, C and E but S didn't really feel like going because of issues at home. I wasn't going to go because I wanted to stay with S and I did until 11 but E and I decided to meet J and C at Mybar for something to do. We got in no problem and I dressed up for the occasion in my new dress I had sewed. (I look like Lauren Conrad apparently... hence why my life is even more like the hills...) First thing C tells me is Chris is there, which I felt wasn't really an issue. While on the dance floor C tells me to not turn around because Chris was right behind me. He probably didn't recognize me since I dyed my hair blonde (!). After while at the bar getting drinks Chris came up and asked to talk to me. So I agreed thinking maybe this will get him off my back...and just a warning, all of the following events are true and rather shocking so be prepared!
First thing he says is "I lied to you when we were dating." Of course, I immediately think he cheated on me, which is what every girl wants to hear, right? He says "do you remember that girl Tiff I dated when I was 18?" Me: "Yes I vaguely do..." Chris "well when we were dating she got pregnant and had an abortion and then moved to montreal... but I found out when I started dating you that she didn't have the abortion.. and I had a 3 year old daughter..." Me inside "WHAAATTT?" I was dating someone with a kid... when I was 16... oh. my. god. How effing creepy! But wait it gets better. Chris " So that's why I was so broke when we were dating because I was putting money away for her college education. But I just found out last week that my daughter died in a car crash..." Me again "WHAT?!?!" So he had a daughter.. but she conviently died (As bad as this sounds.) I really didn't believe him.
He lied so much when we were dating and now I find out about this its hard to believe. He had all of these so called "meetings" with Colleges in the states for Football coach positions but he never told me about them. I would find out about them 3 months after the fact. Bull shit.
So after finding out about the kid he says "I have to tell you something else." Fuck, what now. "after you broke up with me, I went to a football field and tried to hang myself on the uprights but the noose broke." Holy shit. Are you kidding me!? So I say "Do you know how selfish that would have been? For me to live the rest of my life with the burden hanging over me that you killed yourself because I broke up with you?" He is so emotionally unstable its ridiculous. Then here's the icing on the cake, Chris says "So you know when I called you asking to go for coffee? I was actually outside your house..." WHAT THE! He lives in transcona and I live in north kildonan! That's so out of the way! What a wingnut! Of course though out the course of this conversation he tells me he will always love me and I'll always be he dream girl, but don't worry, he doesn't want to date me? What the hell? I don't want to date him. Ever. He asks me if I miss him and if I actually loved him etc etc. Now 8 months and one boyfriend after the fact... I do not miss him nor do I want to be his friend but he thinks we're buddy buddy. He asks if he could stop by where I work one day and get prizes for the wedding socials he is apart of.. uh no... everyone where I work hates his guts because of the tiff between James and Chris and also because everyone has heard my stories about him. He's a creeper! At the end of our conversation he asks if he can dance with us later and then he kisses me on the cheek and I walk away... Wow. Wow. Wow. So to summerize in case you forgot.
1) He had a 3 year old child when i was dating him ( I was 16)
2) She apparently died last week in a car crash
3) He tried to hang himself after I broke up with him
4) He was outside my house when he asked to go for coffee
5) He loves and misses me but doesn't want to date me...
WHAT!? All of my friends we telling me to get restraining orders but I don't think that's enough info and plus I don't want to affect his teaching career just yet... If it gets worse I'll contact the police but not yet. Phew. So that was quite the story. I'll continue with after the break up with Brian in my next blog!
As always,
K
Chris would text me all the time while I was dating Brian. Asking to hang out, talk etc etc. I wasn't really comfortable with hanging out with him since I had just started dating someone new. Plus the relationship ended badly (as you can tell) in his eyes so I didn't want to have to deal with that again. I did meet him for coffee once to try and be on a civil level with him but he just tried to rehash our relationship. He said it was a mistake that we dated which was kind of a shot. I didn't view it as a mistake as we had dated for over a year and every relationship is a learning experience. He was just too much to deal with so I tried to avoid him. Occasionally I would see him at the bar and he'd try to talk to me or talk to my friends. He started to hang around my friend J more, which was creepy to me since she is one of my best friends and he kept trying to buy her drinks at the bar and dance with her. He also was posing for pictures with J and C which again, was a little weird since he said he was glad we broke up since I was so young....
I ended up confronting him on MSN in march about buying J drinks at the bar and also since J found it a little creepy. (Sorry for outing you on this info J!) He asked me why it was creepy and why I was trying to control him, saying that I clearly wasn't over him... Uh, it was more why is he scamming on my 18 year old friends when he said I was too young? And yeah, did I mention he was 25 at this point? Of course he decided it would be a good time to try and talk about why our relationship ended again, not like that occured 6 months ago or anything...So we weren't talking again after that which was fine with me. He is a wingnut and unfortunately only I could see that.
Also in March a member from my work started texting me. I had text him on his birthday in March since N told me that he was having a bad day and I knew him though the people I worked with and James. I figured it wasn't a problem and I was just being nice. From me texting him he got my phone number and took it upon himself to text me all night. He said how amazing I was and how he wishes he could be there for my birthday... Oh and did I mention he's 31!!!! Yeah... I apparently attract weirdos! He asked that if I was there if I would give him a birthday kiss. Hell. no. He would sporadically text me for the next couple months saying how awesome and fantastic I was even though yes, I was still with Brian. I got N to talk to him and tell him to stop texting me but it didn't seem to matter. He STILL texts me and makes creepy comments when we are out at Earls (he comes because he is friends with James and Co.) So we have that drama going on which is of course so lovely. His texts of "I know it's late but... I think UR great" have become quite the joke at work.
I guess I'll continue on with the Chris saga. After I broke up with Brian I received a facebook message from Chris apologizing for the break up and if I needed anything to "let him know"... Right... the next day, Saturday, I received a phone call at 2:30am from Chris. I was asleep and he said he was "in the area" and wanted to know if I wanted to go for coffee... Uh, no. I wasn't going to get back with him just because I had broken up with Brian. Clearly I wasn't going for coffee at 2:30 am either? The next weekend he text me asking how my night was... I didn't respond. I didn't want to start arguing with him over nothing and get him back in my life. He was crazy! I went to Minneapolis the next week with my friends. A break from everything! thank god! When I got back I, of course, received a text from Chris asking how my trip was. He must have been checking out my facebook since I have not been in contact with him at all and no one told him. Again I did not respond... I didn't want to get involved with him again. He just caused unneeded stress in my life so I avoided him at all costs. I thought I had gotten rid of him... but noooooo of course not.
Friday June 13th, ( I know. the date should have told me what was coming) I was supposed to go to Mybar with S, J, C and E but S didn't really feel like going because of issues at home. I wasn't going to go because I wanted to stay with S and I did until 11 but E and I decided to meet J and C at Mybar for something to do. We got in no problem and I dressed up for the occasion in my new dress I had sewed. (I look like Lauren Conrad apparently... hence why my life is even more like the hills...) First thing C tells me is Chris is there, which I felt wasn't really an issue. While on the dance floor C tells me to not turn around because Chris was right behind me. He probably didn't recognize me since I dyed my hair blonde (!). After while at the bar getting drinks Chris came up and asked to talk to me. So I agreed thinking maybe this will get him off my back...and just a warning, all of the following events are true and rather shocking so be prepared!
First thing he says is "I lied to you when we were dating." Of course, I immediately think he cheated on me, which is what every girl wants to hear, right? He says "do you remember that girl Tiff I dated when I was 18?" Me: "Yes I vaguely do..." Chris "well when we were dating she got pregnant and had an abortion and then moved to montreal... but I found out when I started dating you that she didn't have the abortion.. and I had a 3 year old daughter..." Me inside "WHAAATTT?" I was dating someone with a kid... when I was 16... oh. my. god. How effing creepy! But wait it gets better. Chris " So that's why I was so broke when we were dating because I was putting money away for her college education. But I just found out last week that my daughter died in a car crash..." Me again "WHAT?!?!" So he had a daughter.. but she conviently died (As bad as this sounds.) I really didn't believe him.
He lied so much when we were dating and now I find out about this its hard to believe. He had all of these so called "meetings" with Colleges in the states for Football coach positions but he never told me about them. I would find out about them 3 months after the fact. Bull shit.
So after finding out about the kid he says "I have to tell you something else." Fuck, what now. "after you broke up with me, I went to a football field and tried to hang myself on the uprights but the noose broke." Holy shit. Are you kidding me!? So I say "Do you know how selfish that would have been? For me to live the rest of my life with the burden hanging over me that you killed yourself because I broke up with you?" He is so emotionally unstable its ridiculous. Then here's the icing on the cake, Chris says "So you know when I called you asking to go for coffee? I was actually outside your house..." WHAT THE! He lives in transcona and I live in north kildonan! That's so out of the way! What a wingnut! Of course though out the course of this conversation he tells me he will always love me and I'll always be he dream girl, but don't worry, he doesn't want to date me? What the hell? I don't want to date him. Ever. He asks me if I miss him and if I actually loved him etc etc. Now 8 months and one boyfriend after the fact... I do not miss him nor do I want to be his friend but he thinks we're buddy buddy. He asks if he could stop by where I work one day and get prizes for the wedding socials he is apart of.. uh no... everyone where I work hates his guts because of the tiff between James and Chris and also because everyone has heard my stories about him. He's a creeper! At the end of our conversation he asks if he can dance with us later and then he kisses me on the cheek and I walk away... Wow. Wow. Wow. So to summerize in case you forgot.
1) He had a 3 year old child when i was dating him ( I was 16)
2) She apparently died last week in a car crash
3) He tried to hang himself after I broke up with him
4) He was outside my house when he asked to go for coffee
5) He loves and misses me but doesn't want to date me...
WHAT!? All of my friends we telling me to get restraining orders but I don't think that's enough info and plus I don't want to affect his teaching career just yet... If it gets worse I'll contact the police but not yet. Phew. So that was quite the story. I'll continue with after the break up with Brian in my next blog!
As always,
K
Tuesday, June 24, 2008
It's a Cold Christmas....
Good evening!
I want to get my blog updated so that I can update in the now! I left off with my christmas story with James.
I struggled though exams at the beginning of december, it was tough not having Chris by my side anymore but he was just a dead weight. He wanted my back clearly but I didn't want anything to do with that. I ended up going to the OC one night with my friends as my friend S had won a free stay at the Canad Inns Fort Garry, So we did that. We were there the entire night and at the end of the night I was dancing with some guy and he was shuffling around in his pocket. I thought he was going to try and pull a smooth move and ask for my number but he put both hands behind my back and I felt his grip tighten. I saw him pull a bottle out with a strange needle thing and I ran. Yes, someone tried to drug me.... It was possibly one of the most ridiculous things that has ever happened to me. I ended up spraining my ankle in the process of trying to weave though the crowd (Also some guy got stabbed there... great security canad inns). The guy kept trying to talk to me saying he don't know why I ran and I told security and they did absolutely nothing. It was so fucking stupid. So that was the day before James came back.
James came back from T.O the saturday. I was supposed to go to Cowboys for my friends birthday but I could barely walk from my ankle, and I actually ended up leaving work way early that day. Anyways, back to Cowboys, I didn't go because I couldn't stand and also Chris was going to be there. I had told Chris that James might show up at cowboys just to warn him and chris decided it would be fun to bring "back up" with him. Aka big friends so he could fight James. Chris said he will always hate James beacuse in his eyes James stole me away from him, which is total shit but that's okay. Chris likes to think everything is about him, and he still does. (more on that later.) So out of fear of seeing a fight over nothing and not being able to stand I ended up going to Earls for James' "get back in town" get together. He's an earls enthusiast as he likes to call it. Gah. So yup go to Earls and it was kind of weird, I mean, we had agreed to date and see what happens when he got back. He sat next to me the whole night and it was okay. At the end of the night a girl I didn't know showed up and ran up and hugged James. I wanted to say bye but I wasn't going to wait around so I left. I found out from him that the girl was Julia, a girl he used to date and she was a loony toon.
The next day he tried to talk to S on msn and confessed to her that Julia was supposed to drive him home and she ended up taking him back to her appartment in Steinbach. yeah.... they apparently slept in the same bed (with clothes on) but the fact he told my best friend first before was dumb. I for some reason, gave him another chance beacuse he said he talked to his sister and he was serious about dating me. He was over Julia, he swore up and down. Julia and James dated back in May before I started working with him so I had never met her in my life. All of my co-workers thought she was crazy because she started dancing on the tables at Earls one time. I thought he was sincere about being over her so we agreed to go out for dinner and catch a movie on monday.
We went out on the date and it was good. Can't complain haha. We agreed to hang out again on Friday. He kept flaking on me though and it started getting excessive. Plans would fall though 3 hours before we were supposed to hang out. I couldn't pin him down for anything. The last straw was when he showed up to Pharoahs on Boxing day and then just flipped out on S because she told him to say hi to me. He wandered around the bar by himself and finally I went and talked to him and reamed him out saying he was being dramatic and if I was willing to be apart from him for 3 more months, but still committed to him he should be giving me more than the time of day. Apparently, that's too hard for him so I told him I was done with him. He had wanted me to spend new years with him but clearly that wasn't happening now. This massive fight happened 4 days before.
So New Years I end up spending with my friends and S's boyfriend was with James since I work with him too. N called us from Joey's that night saying that Julia showed up with James. What the hell, I though he was over her??? what a lie that was. The best part was that S talked to James and we could hear Julia in the background FREAKING OUT because she thought it was me takling to James. She demanded to talk to me, I could hear her shrieking though the phone. What's great is I've never met her and she hates me beacuse I apparently "Stole James" from her.... even though they had been broken up since may... and it was decemeber... okay then...
James and I parted ways since he went back to T.O in January and I continued on with my life and 2nd semester in University.
I started dating Brian in january and it was great. We clicked right away and dated until May, when he broke up with me for some unknown reason but the best part is, he stepped on my laptop screen and broke it in february which is about $400 and I also bought him shorts and he said he'd pay me back ASAP, then broke up with me. So in total he owes me about $600. And he refuses to talk to me. Or Pay me back. Awesome. That's all I'll say about Brian since I have no desire to give him the time of day and there wasn't much action or "drama" there. There were some events that happened during the course of me dating him which I will cover in my next Blog!
As Always,
K
I want to get my blog updated so that I can update in the now! I left off with my christmas story with James.
I struggled though exams at the beginning of december, it was tough not having Chris by my side anymore but he was just a dead weight. He wanted my back clearly but I didn't want anything to do with that. I ended up going to the OC one night with my friends as my friend S had won a free stay at the Canad Inns Fort Garry, So we did that. We were there the entire night and at the end of the night I was dancing with some guy and he was shuffling around in his pocket. I thought he was going to try and pull a smooth move and ask for my number but he put both hands behind my back and I felt his grip tighten. I saw him pull a bottle out with a strange needle thing and I ran. Yes, someone tried to drug me.... It was possibly one of the most ridiculous things that has ever happened to me. I ended up spraining my ankle in the process of trying to weave though the crowd (Also some guy got stabbed there... great security canad inns). The guy kept trying to talk to me saying he don't know why I ran and I told security and they did absolutely nothing. It was so fucking stupid. So that was the day before James came back.
James came back from T.O the saturday. I was supposed to go to Cowboys for my friends birthday but I could barely walk from my ankle, and I actually ended up leaving work way early that day. Anyways, back to Cowboys, I didn't go because I couldn't stand and also Chris was going to be there. I had told Chris that James might show up at cowboys just to warn him and chris decided it would be fun to bring "back up" with him. Aka big friends so he could fight James. Chris said he will always hate James beacuse in his eyes James stole me away from him, which is total shit but that's okay. Chris likes to think everything is about him, and he still does. (more on that later.) So out of fear of seeing a fight over nothing and not being able to stand I ended up going to Earls for James' "get back in town" get together. He's an earls enthusiast as he likes to call it. Gah. So yup go to Earls and it was kind of weird, I mean, we had agreed to date and see what happens when he got back. He sat next to me the whole night and it was okay. At the end of the night a girl I didn't know showed up and ran up and hugged James. I wanted to say bye but I wasn't going to wait around so I left. I found out from him that the girl was Julia, a girl he used to date and she was a loony toon.
The next day he tried to talk to S on msn and confessed to her that Julia was supposed to drive him home and she ended up taking him back to her appartment in Steinbach. yeah.... they apparently slept in the same bed (with clothes on) but the fact he told my best friend first before was dumb. I for some reason, gave him another chance beacuse he said he talked to his sister and he was serious about dating me. He was over Julia, he swore up and down. Julia and James dated back in May before I started working with him so I had never met her in my life. All of my co-workers thought she was crazy because she started dancing on the tables at Earls one time. I thought he was sincere about being over her so we agreed to go out for dinner and catch a movie on monday.
We went out on the date and it was good. Can't complain haha. We agreed to hang out again on Friday. He kept flaking on me though and it started getting excessive. Plans would fall though 3 hours before we were supposed to hang out. I couldn't pin him down for anything. The last straw was when he showed up to Pharoahs on Boxing day and then just flipped out on S because she told him to say hi to me. He wandered around the bar by himself and finally I went and talked to him and reamed him out saying he was being dramatic and if I was willing to be apart from him for 3 more months, but still committed to him he should be giving me more than the time of day. Apparently, that's too hard for him so I told him I was done with him. He had wanted me to spend new years with him but clearly that wasn't happening now. This massive fight happened 4 days before.
So New Years I end up spending with my friends and S's boyfriend was with James since I work with him too. N called us from Joey's that night saying that Julia showed up with James. What the hell, I though he was over her??? what a lie that was. The best part was that S talked to James and we could hear Julia in the background FREAKING OUT because she thought it was me takling to James. She demanded to talk to me, I could hear her shrieking though the phone. What's great is I've never met her and she hates me beacuse I apparently "Stole James" from her.... even though they had been broken up since may... and it was decemeber... okay then...
James and I parted ways since he went back to T.O in January and I continued on with my life and 2nd semester in University.
I started dating Brian in january and it was great. We clicked right away and dated until May, when he broke up with me for some unknown reason but the best part is, he stepped on my laptop screen and broke it in february which is about $400 and I also bought him shorts and he said he'd pay me back ASAP, then broke up with me. So in total he owes me about $600. And he refuses to talk to me. Or Pay me back. Awesome. That's all I'll say about Brian since I have no desire to give him the time of day and there wasn't much action or "drama" there. There were some events that happened during the course of me dating him which I will cover in my next Blog!
As Always,
K
Rewind!
Good morning!
Currently at work fairly bored so I decided to get this story going since this will be covered over numerous posts.
So everyone ready for the start of the story? I guess first you need a little background. I'm 18 going on 19 and yes, my life is this ridiculous. I started dating a guy, Chris, back in 2006. He was 6 years older than me so right there this caused a lot of problems. 16 year old dating a 23 year old, yeah, we got some looks. I kept it hush hush for about two months, not wanting my parents to know, or my workplace since we did work at the same retail store. My manager ended up finding out 3 months after and immediately my shifts were cut down. Apparently we "couldn't work well together" even though we were in different departments and rarely saw each other at work. We were nothing but professional, but that's just objective right? So after having a huge discussion with my general manager, I was able to work at the same time as him but of course under watchful eye. People at work started to find out too and thought it was odd but we worked well together somehow.
We ended up dating for over a year and it started to go down hill when I started university in fall of 2007. I was off making something for myself while he had taken a year off from school since he didn't get into his faculty, twice. I finally forced him to go back to university and take courses to upgrade his marks since he had quite a number of failures so he could at least have somewhat of a chance to get into his faculty. Along with university driving us apart, it didn't help that we went to different universities. I also had a full course load plus labs and was attempting to get into pharmacy (which I didn't). I had to work my ass off to get stellar marks and he couldn't understand that I couldn't see him 3 times a week like we did over the summer.
Along with university came my 18th birthday, which meant of course I could go to the bar. For me the bar isn't a place to get "picked up" or get loaded, I just like to go to dance with my friends and have fun. What I didn't know is how jealous Chris was and how much the bar would affect out relationship. I had always allowed him to go to the bar with his friends. For me, just because I couldn't go didn't mean he had to stop going. I trusted him and I'm not a jealous person so it was a non-issue for me. When I started going to the bar without him being there I constantly faced a barrage of question about who was there, who I talked to, if I danced with anyone (which I didn't) and if guys were hitting on me. He said he asked me all these questions because he was just jealous and not because he did not trust me but it certainly didn't feel like that. How was I supposed to have a relationship with someone that couldn't trust me being with my friends? After that I started to question whether or not I could handle continuing to date Chris if the trust wasn't there anymore.
Near the end of October a co-worker named James from my new job started texting me and confessing that he liked me. First problem, I had a boyfriend of over a year. Second problem, He wasn't where I was. He was in T.O for school and didn't come back until December for two weeks then he was gone again until April. Clearly, he wasn't the smartest cookie. I didn't really know what to do because I just felt at that time he was a friend to me and yes again, I was dating Chris. James still text me from time to time and was generally very flattering to me, which was nice since Chris just bitched to me about everything. Everything with him was a struggle. He was suddenly depressed and felt our relationship wasn't the same. Also he was struggling with school, which I pushed him into in an attempt to make him a better person I guess. Or as Ms. Norberry would say (I'm a pusher Cady, I push people! Bonus for name that movie.)
I pretty much had given up at this point with Chris. Our relationship went down the tube after October and we tried to work though our problems but it didn't happen. I knew I had to break up with him but getting to the actual breaking up part was hard for me. He was my first "love" and I had been with him for over a year, my first long standing relationship. Everyone had always said "I though you guys were going to get married one day..." which definitely did not help my conscience. Before the break up happened, I ended up going to T.O for the Grey Cup game with my Dad. Of course, James was in T.O so I met up with him and we went to a leafs game and to dinner. It was nice but it was just a friends outting. I realized on that trip that I did not miss Chris at all so I broke up with him when I got back. It was extremely hard but I had to do it. He didn't take the break up well, as he figured I cheated on him but I nothing happened with James at all. We both agreed it was just as friends and it was pure timing or perhaps James accelerated the break up even though it took me over a month.
So I'll leave off there and continue on with the next part of the saga which starts in mid-december with James.
As Always
K
Currently at work fairly bored so I decided to get this story going since this will be covered over numerous posts.
So everyone ready for the start of the story? I guess first you need a little background. I'm 18 going on 19 and yes, my life is this ridiculous. I started dating a guy, Chris, back in 2006. He was 6 years older than me so right there this caused a lot of problems. 16 year old dating a 23 year old, yeah, we got some looks. I kept it hush hush for about two months, not wanting my parents to know, or my workplace since we did work at the same retail store. My manager ended up finding out 3 months after and immediately my shifts were cut down. Apparently we "couldn't work well together" even though we were in different departments and rarely saw each other at work. We were nothing but professional, but that's just objective right? So after having a huge discussion with my general manager, I was able to work at the same time as him but of course under watchful eye. People at work started to find out too and thought it was odd but we worked well together somehow.
We ended up dating for over a year and it started to go down hill when I started university in fall of 2007. I was off making something for myself while he had taken a year off from school since he didn't get into his faculty, twice. I finally forced him to go back to university and take courses to upgrade his marks since he had quite a number of failures so he could at least have somewhat of a chance to get into his faculty. Along with university driving us apart, it didn't help that we went to different universities. I also had a full course load plus labs and was attempting to get into pharmacy (which I didn't). I had to work my ass off to get stellar marks and he couldn't understand that I couldn't see him 3 times a week like we did over the summer.
Along with university came my 18th birthday, which meant of course I could go to the bar. For me the bar isn't a place to get "picked up" or get loaded, I just like to go to dance with my friends and have fun. What I didn't know is how jealous Chris was and how much the bar would affect out relationship. I had always allowed him to go to the bar with his friends. For me, just because I couldn't go didn't mean he had to stop going. I trusted him and I'm not a jealous person so it was a non-issue for me. When I started going to the bar without him being there I constantly faced a barrage of question about who was there, who I talked to, if I danced with anyone (which I didn't) and if guys were hitting on me. He said he asked me all these questions because he was just jealous and not because he did not trust me but it certainly didn't feel like that. How was I supposed to have a relationship with someone that couldn't trust me being with my friends? After that I started to question whether or not I could handle continuing to date Chris if the trust wasn't there anymore.
Near the end of October a co-worker named James from my new job started texting me and confessing that he liked me. First problem, I had a boyfriend of over a year. Second problem, He wasn't where I was. He was in T.O for school and didn't come back until December for two weeks then he was gone again until April. Clearly, he wasn't the smartest cookie. I didn't really know what to do because I just felt at that time he was a friend to me and yes again, I was dating Chris. James still text me from time to time and was generally very flattering to me, which was nice since Chris just bitched to me about everything. Everything with him was a struggle. He was suddenly depressed and felt our relationship wasn't the same. Also he was struggling with school, which I pushed him into in an attempt to make him a better person I guess. Or as Ms. Norberry would say (I'm a pusher Cady, I push people! Bonus for name that movie.)
I pretty much had given up at this point with Chris. Our relationship went down the tube after October and we tried to work though our problems but it didn't happen. I knew I had to break up with him but getting to the actual breaking up part was hard for me. He was my first "love" and I had been with him for over a year, my first long standing relationship. Everyone had always said "I though you guys were going to get married one day..." which definitely did not help my conscience. Before the break up happened, I ended up going to T.O for the Grey Cup game with my Dad. Of course, James was in T.O so I met up with him and we went to a leafs game and to dinner. It was nice but it was just a friends outting. I realized on that trip that I did not miss Chris at all so I broke up with him when I got back. It was extremely hard but I had to do it. He didn't take the break up well, as he figured I cheated on him but I nothing happened with James at all. We both agreed it was just as friends and it was pure timing or perhaps James accelerated the break up even though it took me over a month.
So I'll leave off there and continue on with the next part of the saga which starts in mid-december with James.
As Always
K
Monday, June 23, 2008
The Start of something new...
Hey everyone,
So this will be my blog, an outlet for you to follow my crazy life. My friends and I were discussing how insane my life is all the time and decided that could maybe even be more interesting than The Hills. See, most of my drama isn't with my friends, they are fairly consistant in my life. It's the guys I date and lets say "fair-weather" friends I come across that make my life so great. I'll be updating my blog with the things that have occured in the past 8 or so months of my life over the next little while and get you up to speed on everything else that is currently happening. First you should know, everything I will be telling you is 100% and real and can, of course, only occur in my life. Also, I'll be changing names to protect identities so the people who are featured don't feel as dumb. So be on the look out. The first few updates are going to be very interesting to say the least!
As Always
K
So this will be my blog, an outlet for you to follow my crazy life. My friends and I were discussing how insane my life is all the time and decided that could maybe even be more interesting than The Hills. See, most of my drama isn't with my friends, they are fairly consistant in my life. It's the guys I date and lets say "fair-weather" friends I come across that make my life so great. I'll be updating my blog with the things that have occured in the past 8 or so months of my life over the next little while and get you up to speed on everything else that is currently happening. First you should know, everything I will be telling you is 100% and real and can, of course, only occur in my life. Also, I'll be changing names to protect identities so the people who are featured don't feel as dumb. So be on the look out. The first few updates are going to be very interesting to say the least!
As Always
K
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