Spring brings... flowers?

So...where did I leave off.... Ah yes, with Chris.

Chris would text me all the time while I was dating Brian. Asking to hang out, talk etc etc. I wasn't really comfortable with hanging out with him since I had just started dating someone new. Plus the relationship ended badly (as you can tell) in his eyes so I didn't want to have to deal with that again. I did meet him for coffee once to try and be on a civil level with him but he just tried to rehash our relationship. He said it was a mistake that we dated which was kind of a shot. I didn't view it as a mistake as we had dated for over a year and every relationship is a learning experience. He was just too much to deal with so I tried to avoid him. Occasionally I would see him at the bar and he'd try to talk to me or talk to my friends. He started to hang around my friend J more, which was creepy to me since she is one of my best friends and he kept trying to buy her drinks at the bar and dance with her. He also was posing for pictures with J and C which again, was a little weird since he said he was glad we broke up since I was so young....

I ended up confronting him on MSN in march about buying J drinks at the bar and also since J found it a little creepy. (Sorry for outing you on this info J!) He asked me why it was creepy and why I was trying to control him, saying that I clearly wasn't over him... Uh, it was more why is he scamming on my 18 year old friends when he said I was too young? And yeah, did I mention he was 25 at this point? Of course he decided it would be a good time to try and talk about why our relationship ended again, not like that occured 6 months ago or anything...So we weren't talking again after that which was fine with me. He is a wingnut and unfortunately only I could see that.

Also in March a member from my work started texting me. I had text him on his birthday in March since N told me that he was having a bad day and I knew him though the people I worked with and James. I figured it wasn't a problem and I was just being nice. From me texting him he got my phone number and took it upon himself to text me all night. He said how amazing I was and how he wishes he could be there for my birthday... Oh and did I mention he's 31!!!! Yeah... I apparently attract weirdos! He asked that if I was there if I would give him a birthday kiss. Hell. no. He would sporadically text me for the next couple months saying how awesome and fantastic I was even though yes, I was still with Brian. I got N to talk to him and tell him to stop texting me but it didn't seem to matter. He STILL texts me and makes creepy comments when we are out at Earls (he comes because he is friends with James and Co.) So we have that drama going on which is of course so lovely. His texts of "I know it's late but... I think UR great" have become quite the joke at work.

I guess I'll continue on with the Chris saga. After I broke up with Brian I received a facebook message from Chris apologizing for the break up and if I needed anything to "let him know"... Right... the next day, Saturday, I received a phone call at 2:30am from Chris. I was asleep and he said he was "in the area" and wanted to know if I wanted to go for coffee... Uh, no. I wasn't going to get back with him just because I had broken up with Brian. Clearly I wasn't going for coffee at 2:30 am either? The next weekend he text me asking how my night was... I didn't respond. I didn't want to start arguing with him over nothing and get him back in my life. He was crazy! I went to Minneapolis the next week with my friends. A break from everything! thank god! When I got back I, of course, received a text from Chris asking how my trip was. He must have been checking out my facebook since I have not been in contact with him at all and no one told him. Again I did not respond... I didn't want to get involved with him again. He just caused unneeded stress in my life so I avoided him at all costs. I thought I had gotten rid of him... but noooooo of course not.

Friday June 13th, ( I know. the date should have told me what was coming) I was supposed to go to Mybar with S, J, C and E but S didn't really feel like going because of issues at home. I wasn't going to go because I wanted to stay with S and I did until 11 but E and I decided to meet J and C at Mybar for something to do. We got in no problem and I dressed up for the occasion in my new dress I had sewed. (I look like Lauren Conrad apparently... hence why my life is even more like the hills...) First thing C tells me is Chris is there, which I felt wasn't really an issue. While on the dance floor C tells me to not turn around because Chris was right behind me. He probably didn't recognize me since I dyed my hair blonde (!). After while at the bar getting drinks Chris came up and asked to talk to me. So I agreed thinking maybe this will get him off my back...and just a warning, all of the following events are true and rather shocking so be prepared!

First thing he says is "I lied to you when we were dating." Of course, I immediately think he cheated on me, which is what every girl wants to hear, right? He says "do you remember that girl Tiff I dated when I was 18?" Me: "Yes I vaguely do..." Chris "well when we were dating she got pregnant and had an abortion and then moved to montreal... but I found out when I started dating you that she didn't have the abortion.. and I had a 3 year old daughter..." Me inside "WHAAATTT?" I was dating someone with a kid... when I was 16... oh. my. god. How effing creepy! But wait it gets better. Chris " So that's why I was so broke when we were dating because I was putting money away for her college education. But I just found out last week that my daughter died in a car crash..." Me again "WHAT?!?!" So he had a daughter.. but she conviently died (As bad as this sounds.) I really didn't believe him.

He lied so much when we were dating and now I find out about this its hard to believe. He had all of these so called "meetings" with Colleges in the states for Football coach positions but he never told me about them. I would find out about them 3 months after the fact. Bull shit.

So after finding out about the kid he says "I have to tell you something else." Fuck, what now. "after you broke up with me, I went to a football field and tried to hang myself on the uprights but the noose broke." Holy shit. Are you kidding me!? So I say "Do you know how selfish that would have been? For me to live the rest of my life with the burden hanging over me that you killed yourself because I broke up with you?" He is so emotionally unstable its ridiculous. Then here's the icing on the cake, Chris says "So you know when I called you asking to go for coffee? I was actually outside your house..." WHAT THE! He lives in transcona and I live in north kildonan! That's so out of the way! What a wingnut! Of course though out the course of this conversation he tells me he will always love me and I'll always be he dream girl, but don't worry, he doesn't want to date me? What the hell? I don't want to date him. Ever. He asks me if I miss him and if I actually loved him etc etc. Now 8 months and one boyfriend after the fact... I do not miss him nor do I want to be his friend but he thinks we're buddy buddy. He asks if he could stop by where I work one day and get prizes for the wedding socials he is apart of.. uh no... everyone where I work hates his guts because of the tiff between James and Chris and also because everyone has heard my stories about him. He's a creeper! At the end of our conversation he asks if he can dance with us later and then he kisses me on the cheek and I walk away... Wow. Wow. Wow. So to summerize in case you forgot.
1) He had a 3 year old child when i was dating him ( I was 16)
2) She apparently died last week in a car crash
3) He tried to hang himself after I broke up with him
4) He was outside my house when he asked to go for coffee
5) He loves and misses me but doesn't want to date me...

WHAT!? All of my friends we telling me to get restraining orders but I don't think that's enough info and plus I don't want to affect his teaching career just yet... If it gets worse I'll contact the police but not yet. Phew. So that was quite the story. I'll continue with after the break up with Brian in my next blog!

As always,
K